stay at home style.

We don’t wake up to an alarm clock (very often at least). We don’t have to fight the anxiety-probing, morning rush-hour traffic… be it on a parkway, freeway, or subway. We don’t have to make idle water-cooler chit-chat with people whom we could really care less about talking to on a daily basis. We can take our lunch whenever we please, and if we call it a day before the rest of the nine to fivers, no one will know, or care for that matter. We are freelancers.
Freelancing.. has an appealing ring to it, no? I think Brooklyn may be the freelancing capital of the world. Well, I suppose I can’t really say that, but I would bet money that it is up there in the rankings. If I were to guess, I would say that a good 50% of my Brooklyn clientele are freelancers of some sort.. writers, editors, graphic designers, web designers, clothing designers, painters, BLOGGERS, architects, dancers, actors, singers… the list goes on and on. It’s an attractive title, especially to those of us who have worked or presently work for a company, who have to get up at the same time every day and be presentable, put on our makeup, do our hair. To have the freedom to work from home seems a breeze, but it can be really challenging as well. You have to be a certain type of person. You have to be driven. You have to be able to make deadlines for yourself and be able to meet them without the constant reminder from your boss breathing down your neck. You have to take total control, and when something goes wrong, you are the only one to blame. It can be exhausting, and somewhat all-consuming.
Much like the stay-at-home moms and dads, being home with your children all day is exhausting. I will again say that Brooklyn is loaded with these types… probably another 20% of my clientele there. They have it similarly to the freelancers in many ways, the main differences being that this work includes another person/persons (which really means they’re not ‘free’ at all), and that they have a built-in alarm to wake them at about the same time every morning. So, perhaps not as appealing sounding as the other group, but I do know that many full-time working mothers and or fathers would love the opportunity to stay home like this if their budgets allowed. Regardless, the two have something very real in common: the lost sense of style.
More often than not, I have members of either of these two groups come and sit in my chair in desperation, asking for help. “I used to have style”, “I used to be cute”, “I don’t even feel like I know what would look good on me anymore”, “I don’t ever go anywhere that I need to look good”…
Stop, people. You need to look good for you. Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to start putting on makeup every day. It doesn’t mean that you need to blow out your hair perfectly, or wear heels or some other uncomfortable item of clothing. It doesn’t even mean that you HAVE to take a shower if you just don’t feel like it, but what it does mean is that you have to remember what YOUR style is. And if you can’t, you need to look for it, try to remember, or maybe just redefine it all together. Make the effort to look in the mirror in the morning. Try to consciously do one thing everyday that is directly related to or affects your appearance. Pick up a fashion magazine once a week and see what people are wearing. Go sit on a bench somewhere on your next day off and people-watch. GET INSPIRED.
I think we all sometimes forget how much our image really does affect our everyday lives; our productivity, our energy, our confidence, our love lives, our happiness.. these are all things that directly affect our work as well.. so make that little bit of an effort, because I promise you, it will pay off. And it really will give those nine to fivers something to be envious of;)


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